Helping a Child to Develop Positive Attitude
I often feel delighted when I see children at a very young age, speaking politely and respectfully to elders. It makes me think what kind of parents they have for them to be such well-mannered and adorable. In opposite, I feel disgusted when I encounter children who are ill-mannered and it makes me ask where do the parents of these kids and how come they are not teaching their children good manners and attitude especially in dealing with other people.
The key here is that we do not have to wait for our children to speak straight or even walk properly for us to teach them manners and values. Teaching such concepts can automatically begin as long as our children can already recognize sounds and words. In fact, at the age of 18months, children can already sense the feelings of others and this is just the appropriate time to start teaching them the values that we want them to have. Below is the list that we might find useful in starting to help our youngsters develop positive attitude!
#1. Make it as a habit
As parents, we must emphasize to our children that being well-mannered with values is not being done in a case to case or even on an occasional basis. But rather, it is something that they must observe, put into action, and inculcate in their day to day living. Let them understand that practicing of values is not something optional that they choose or opt-out.
#2. Socialization purposes
Let our children know that being well-mannered helps them fit-in better in the society simply because people will be happy and delighted to deal and be with them. For example, ask them to behave properly when playing with other children so as to develop a good and true friendship. Let them see the consequences of having no one as a friend if they will be ill-mannered.
#3. It won’t happen overnight
Accept the fact that such development on your children’s behavior, manners, and attitude will not happen in a snap of a finger. It entails a lot of time to learn and they will need such process or time to fully understand and realize it. They will have to gain experiences first as children so as to fully realize the essence of being well-mannered children.
At a young age, our children are expected to start practicing manners such as basic table manners; saying please and thank you; sharing of food/toys, and apologizing/saying sorry. Do not be disappointed if your children cannot practice such manners at a young age, all you have to do is let them practice being well-mannered more and provide them opportunities to do so. In time, your children will be able to catch up too in the process of being well-mannered youngsters.