The Effects of Positive Motivation to a Child
A number of studies have proven that giving of positive motivation or remarks to children has a lot of advantages. It makes them feel happy and confident about themselves and about their accomplishments. They take pride on what ever they get and they become more diligent in doing that action.
Looking at it, I remembered when I was in pre-school. My teacher would usually ask us to write the letter correctly following the blue – red – blue lines on the board. When I finished writing, I immediately ran to her and showed her my accomplishment. I was beaming with pride that I was the one who finished first. My teacher gave me a star attached to a drumstick as a reward and knowing that my Mom will be very happy about it, I kept it in my bag and I was very excited to go home and show it to her. That afternoon when my Mom fetched me, I immediately showed her my reward. She was so happy and as another reward, she took me to my favorite fast-food chain for dinner.
Such incident inspired me to be better in everything I do from that day on. A simple reward made me feel so special and loved by the people around me. The same thing applies when we give positive remarks, rewards, and compliments to the children around us. It brings them so much pride and joy and they just can’t wait to do more better. In fact, children who are motivated are always in control of what they want and what they do not want. They have the ability to control themselves without compromising their personal beliefs. When they think that they have done something good, it contributes to their well-being as well as their mental and psychological health.
But the thing that we have to remember is that “too much” motivation and reward is not good. Sometimes when it is too much, children will just do something good just for the sake of getting the reward. In this case, we failed to teach them the values of doing what is good because they are only after the good consequences of their actions. We have to give praise and rewards only when it is fitted in the situation and when it is necessary so as for the child to treasure that moment. Giving the appropriate praise or reward is also necessary because it can either motivate or even demotivate them and that depends on how they are used, so we have to be careful in giving out our praises and rewards.
Children around 3 years old are not merely after the completion of the activity that they are doing at the moment, but at the same time, they are trying to distinguish which activity they like and do not like. When they get to succeed in doing a quite difficult task, they feel so accomplished and proud. However, when they fail to do a task, they often times feel ashamed and discouraged. That is why the guidance and presence of adults are very necessary at this stage.
Allowing children the opportunity to finish or complete tasks by themselves develops motivation. To help them reach their maximum potentials, adults should be there to help and support them when needed. As children grow old and become more and more capable of doing things, the involvement of adults may now be reduced.