4 Tips for Managing Toddlers with Difficult Behavior
I once witnessed a mother and daughter scene at the mall while I was busy walking around trying to look for something. That scenario really got my attention for it was truly a scene-stealer incident. So as I was saying, there was a mother who was trying her best to make her around two-year-old daughter stop shouting and crying. The reason behind the scenario? The child was crying out loud because he wanted to take home the very big “Jollibee” figure in front of the Jollibee food chain. The mother explained to her clearly that they cannot take it home because it is not allowed, but it did not help. It even made the toddler cry more and more until it attracted a lot of attention already from the crowd. The toddler, in short, threw the worst tantrum anyone could imagine (crying, shouting, throwing of objects around her).
It made me realize how difficult it is to manage toddlers who have difficult behaviors (throwing tantrums) and I also thought of researching possible solutions for that. Let’s try to look at it, toddlers do not have yet the ability to explain what they want in a reasonable and logical manner, so their choice is to get your attention even if it means in the most embarrassing and humiliating way through tantrums. The question now is, how do we manage such situation? I have here 4 powerful tips that you can use in dealing with toddlers with difficult behavior.
Tip #1: Reason behind rules
Whenever you give rules to your toddler (like asking him/her to be polite, say please, avoid pushing, etc.), do not just simply tell them the actual action like “say please”. But rather, tell him/her the reason why it is important to behave that way. Understanding reasons behind rules are way better than following commands. This will make your toddler reflect on the connection of the action and explanation that you have given before doing an act.
Tip #2: Preparation before going out
Be sure that before going out for a walk or going to a mall or any other place, explain to your toddler in a clear manner what are you supposed to do outside and what are the behaviors that he/she must maintain outside. This will save you from a lot of trouble since your toddler might have a second thoughts first before throwing a tantrum since you already made it clear to him/her such matters before hand.
Tip #3: Consistency is the key
If you tell your toddler that he/she is not allowed to eat chocolate before going to sleep, then do not break that rule. Make sure to be consistent with the rules that you create to make your toddler understand that these must be followed because if not, he/she might think that it’s okay to break your rules.
Tip #4: Positive approach
Instead of making use of “don’t”, “no”, and “stop” in every beginning of my sentence, do the other way around. Instead of saying “don’t shout”, it is much better to say “keep quiet”. This helps your toddler develop a positive outlook in your relationship and in his/her every action. Make it sure that you also give praises and affirmative statements about the good things that he/she does because it makes her remember it and practice those good actions more.
Now that you have the 4 powerful tips, it is now time to apply it in the way you handle your toddler because these tips may save you from a lot of troubles in the future. Be ready to see your toddler behave in a more delightful way.