Tips for Raising a Confident Child
We all dream of having a child who is an achiever and who is confident enough to stand in front of people and do what ever he/she wants to do. May it be a song, dance, or even a speech number, we want our child to be confident enough and nail it in front of everyone. But this seems to be a difficult task since, in nature, children are shy type and are adjusting at an early age. So asking them to do something that entails exposure in front of people most of the times scare them. This post aims to give you a series of tips to boost your child’s’ self-confident into its maximum potential without harming his/her personal and psychological growth.
Be a coach, not a controller.Instead of giving commands to your child on what to and not what to do, it is much better to be a coach. The big difference between the two is that a controller dictates whereas a coach guides. Let your child practice his/her free will first and start from there as a coach instead of imposing what you want him/her to do.
Stop asking for PERFECTION.Do not put into your child’s mind that the goal is to be perfect because there is no such thing. If not, your child will just feel bad whenever he/she fails in doing something since you made it clear in the beginning that you are after perfection. Tell your child that it is okay to fail, but what is important is the learnings that he/she gets in failing. What is more valuable is the way he/she handles such failure and learns from it.
Allow your child to EXPLORE.This means that you give him the opportunity to do all the things that he/she wants to do (singing, dancing, reciting, etc.). Because from this variety of activities, you let your child choose and decide which area he/she is more good and comfortable doing. This is a chance for him/her to discover himself/herself more and explore the different activities.
Be a role MODEL.If at the beginning, you child is having a difficulty doing tasks, you can begin helping him/her by modeling the task. Through this, your child will be more motivated to do it since he/she knows that someone he/she knows how to do it and so she could also do it.
Never be a Critic.Do not for a second criticize your child’s performance because that can hugely harm him/her emotionally and psychologically. Worst, he/she might not try anymore since he/she already had a bad experience of being criticized most especially by a person close to him/her. Instead, be a cheerleader and focus more on his/her accomplishments instead of his/her faults.
Such simple steps can carry your child through a lifetime of proper confidence. This will ensure your child growing up as a confident individual who is not afraid of people, and of failure. Self-confidence brings a lot of good things for it enables your child to achieve more in the future.